Day 29 – Choosing God’s Best

After my divorce, I had a series of relationships that were not God’s best for me or my children. Realizing I had let my emotions lead me astray in the past, I asked the Lord to protect me from any path that was not His perfect will. Well, God’s best path turned out to be much longer and more difficult than I ever thought I could bear!

Then one day I met a man who seemed perfect. He seemed to love God and love me. He could provide for me and cared for my children. I loved him and believed surely he was the one! But as much as I desired marriage, our relationship seemed to face one roadblock after another. His children initially did not accept me and my children were wary. My friends and family noticed red flags, but I refused to listen to any voices that were contrary to what I desired.

After two years my heart was unchanged, yet we were still not progressing toward the marriage of which I had dreamed. Every time we moved past one roadblock, a new one appeared. One day I felt the Lord urging me to make a list of the fruit this relationship was bearing in my life. So I closed my eyes, took a deep breath, and faced the truth. Instead of the peace, love, and joy one would expect when two people are preparing for marriage, all I saw was confusion, strife, pain, depression, and anger. Though I didn’t want to admit it, deep inside I knew these were not the fruits of the Holy Spirit.

Without confidence to move forward, but yet not strong enough to end the relationship, I clearly heard the Lord ask me to step away from it for a full year. It felt as though I was cutting off my right arm, but I reluctantly told this man what I believed God was leading me to do. During that year of obedience, I suffered. Greatly. But in the midst of my pain, I learned some things about the man’s character which had been hidden. The more I learned, the more I realized that God’s answer to marrying him was a resounding no.

My heart was crushed, but it survived. Time passed and I healed. Then one day the sun came out and I met the one God said yes to and the one I could also say yes to! This time the fruit of the relationship was only love, joy, and peace. God’s blessing was so evident on our relationship that the entire family blessed it. Before his father, a retired pastor, had even met me he told my husband, “My only question is: Why haven’t you married her yet?” What a joyful day it was when he, along with my new brother-in-law, laid hands of blessing on our hands and joined us in holy matrimony.

Even as I tell this story, I get emotional. I am so thankful to God for helping me learn obedience through suffering. Though I pounded my fists against walls and cried out to Him for my will, I am forever grateful that I chose His instead.

To become all God created us to be, there are some things only He can do for us and there are other things that only we can do. The Lord will empower us by His Spirit to walk in righteousness, but ultimately to have a changed life, we must obey God.

“If you love Me, keep My commandments.” (John 14:15)

Though we may not like the word obedience and the images it conjures up, the Lord knows it is key to living in the fullness of His joy! Like Jesus who “learned obedience by the things which He suffered” (Heb. 5:8), I suffered when I was following a path which was not God’s best for me. However, now I praise God for that suffering. Though I didn’t know it at the time, the Lord was protecting me from situations that would have damaged my life and the lives of others!

Obedience is the doorway through which we must walk to find God’s very best. Only by trusting and obeying Him can we come into the amazing abundant life He has destined for us!

Father, I know what I want, but You know what I need. Give me the courage to obey you today even if it hurts! Help me love You more and trust that your purposes for me are good. Thank you for helping me fulfill my high calling in Christ, for it is in His holy name that I pray, amen.

  • What is the difference between punishment and discipline?
  • Was there a time in your life when you didn’t obey God? What happened?
  • What is the Lord asking you to do today to obey Him?